Life can be hard sometimes and often we tend to turn to people for advice, but are you turning to the wrong people? You should never take information from someone who has never been in your situation or is the opposite of what you want to be. Look for guidance from those you look up to and you want to become, not the ones you feel sorry for.
Just because you care about someone and love them does not mean you can trust them. Not everyone’s judgement is sound, especially if they are going through serious hardships. You would never take financial advice from someone who is poor. Same reason why you don’t take parenting advice from someone who isn’t a parent, they do not know what they are talking about. So take into consideration your sources because you have one life and their advice is only going to alter your life, not theirs.